I've been learning how to be more honest with myself and let me tell you...the truth really does hurt. Sometimes we block ourselves from vibrating at a higher frequency because we aren't 100% honest with ourselves.
We are sometimes so worried about being honest and truthful with others that we forget to keep it JUST as real with ourselves.
I know you may be afraid of asking yourself questions, but it's necessary. It's necessary to ask yourself questions (the easy and hard ones) to discover who you are, what you TRULY want out of your freaking life, and what need to occur to make those changes.
This past weekend I picked up a book about vulnerability and I was honestly afraid to purchase the book. Saturday, I picked up the book and had all intentions of purchasing it. Daring Greatly by Brene Brown was IN my hands. Then I got scared and put it down. This may sound silly to you, but self development books can bring out a crap ton of truth that you didn't even know was hiding.
Sunday, I went back to Barnes & Noble to purchase the book while my husband took Nyla, our daughter, to play.
Being vulnerable and honest can be terrifying, but you and I owe it to ourselves to do so! Here are some questions to help you. If you follow me on Instagram, you know I am an avid journal chick and share my entries almost every day on my stories!
Questions to ask yourself:
1. What am I currently accepting in my life just because I feel things are "supposed" to be this way?
2. What can I let go of in the next 24-48 hours that will get me closer to what I want to get out of my life?
3. What is something that I can do in the next 24-48 hours to get me close to what I want to get out of my life? (think small, quick steps).
Please let me know how these prompts help you!
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Ever struggle with taking your OWN advice? Don't worry. It's okay to be honest with yourself. I won't even know your answer.
You and I can be freaking amazing at helping others do better in their life, but when it comes to ourselves we need a little (or a lot) of help.
Last week was a wildly successful week for me as far as coaching, but I felt my self care going on the back burner. I coach women through their OWN self care almost every freaking day! How could I be slipping?! I literally had to tell myself to do better. As the days went on, I felt myself becoming more drained and more exhausted. Add motherhood on top of life and you have a zoo. A freaking zoo.
"This has to stop", I mentally told myself. Although I've come a LONG way with pushing myself to burn out, there are some weeks where I work so hard and don't make enough time for myself. You almost don't realize it until you are finished. Complete transparency happening right here.
The introvert in me was annoyed and didn't want to do the following because she just wanted to lay on the couch and eat chips & queso.
I texted my friend Thursday and asked if she wanted to attend a yoga class with me on Friday night. I really didn't have a strong WANT to go, but I knew that I needed to. That's the key. Knowing that you need to and taking action despite whatever inside of you is working against your soul.
Of course she said yes and it was a date.
Friday night we walked into the studio together and I felt a sense of calm rush over me. The atmosphere at my home studio is just so inviting and warm. No clutter like my living room which is a constant train wreck ( shoutout to my toddler, tho). Sometimes we just need to get OUT of the house, people!
Then what happened took a shit ton of courage. For the first time in YEARS I signed up for a monthly yoga membership. My bitch brain was telling me to not add another bill to the account, but my soul said... "You need and deserve this. You have the funds. Just do it".
Sometimes it just takes a bit of dedication to get started on a self care journey. $30/month for 8 classes is REALLY freaking cheap. Drop in rates at studios around here are around 15 bucks!
The gentle flow class was an awesome end to my week. What tells me that I need this is the amount of time it took me to settle into my practice. This brain runs CONSTANTLY and I'm the only one who can do the inner work to slow it down and help it focus.
Cheers to a new year of taking better care of me. How can you do the same? If you didn't know, monetary accountability might make you more apt to show up. Even if it's a gym membership, a subscription box of some sort....a coach, perhaps?
Investing in yourself can have a huge return, but you still have to take the courage to show up. You owe it to yourself. Happy Sunday!
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So this past weekend, I may or may not have went to a class called Twerk Til It Hurts Yoga. I turn 28 on January 30th, so I planned a mini trip two hours away with one of my besties! Bestie as in Jessica. Literally one of the sweetest humans on earth who somehow puts up with all of my shenanigans. She has no idea that I'm writing this, but I just need her to know that she has been an amazing friend to me and I love her to PIECES.
Since I'm sharing this story with you, I should ALSO share that I told my husband last minute about this class. Don't you know this guy had tickets to Kevin Hart's comedy show as a surprise for me! WIFEY FAIL. Ladies-if it's your birthday, communicate with your other half. Especially if your best friend is buying $25 tickets for an event! Lesson learned. Luckily, there were two classes being offered and the instructor was gracious enough to allow us to attend the morning session.
I have to admit that I was a weeeee bit nervous. I teach Zumba, but never had I ever attended a class that straight up TOLD me that there was going to be twerking and yoga combined.
Of course Jess and I missed our exit on the highway, so we arrived a little bit later than what we planned to. There I was. Front and center next to the freaking instructor. The actual plan was supposed to be for us to be in the BACK row. It's such a different feel being in the front when the class isn't your own!
Leena, our instructor, was freaking phenomenal. I dropped my cares about being in the front row super quick. After she introduced herself and told us a bit about the class, I really felt at ease. Her spirit just flowed through the room like a freshly lit candle. Before our practice began, she asked us to set our intention. Last week was stressful AF, so I wanted to just focus on having fun and being FREE.
Once the music started, my adrenaline was pumping. We started with some yogi basics and then started combining some flow with dance moves. I have to tell you this is one of the BEST workout classes I have every freaking been to! On another note, I have to warn you that you WILL sweat. I was expecting to get a little sweaty, but it was waaaaay more than a little bit. Literally wanted to snatch my WIG off, but my twists underneath were nowhere near fresh enough for all of that.
As class progressed, I paid attention the the body language of the women around me. It was apparent that they were letting go and not even caring about what was happening around them. No judgement. No negative vibes. Just a room full of women using body movement as a means of energy, positivity and love. Jamming out to songs by Rihanna Soulja Boy, Khia and more. I literally zoned on at one moment and forgot I wasn't at the club.
I felt SO supported in this environment. Environment is EVERYTHING in a class settings. Women need to make sure they have a safe space to be in. One where they don't feel judged for their moves and body type. Leena presented the movements like there was NO limit for any of us. Legit didn't think this handstand was happening. At all.
At the end, we laid on our mats and Leena gave us cold towels with lavender on them and it was the PERFECT touch after pushing my self. Tears were in my eyes as we wrapped up and she reminded us to cultivate our own happiness and thank our bodies for putting in hard work. Signs from the Universe.
Unfortunately, going to Atlanta isn't in the cards for me any time soon, but I would 100% attend this class again! One of the best birthday celebrations to date. Leena, you are a beautiful spirit and I pray that I can be in your presence for another class soon! Women empowerment is your speciality, girlfriend.
Panic. Anxiety. Fear.
This was a description of me the other day around 2 o'clock in the morning. Nyla didn't sleep well for her first couple of hours of the night, so I already had MULTIPLE wake ups before I got smacked with an anxiety attack.
Anytime I wake my husband up and tell him I can't sleep? That's a bad sign. I woke him up multiple times because I just needed to talk to someone.
Nyla was sprawled across our bed, so AC & I went to the guest room.
All I felt in my heart was extreme worry and frustration. Way different than my typical bad ass, confident, real as shit self. "I'm afraid I'll be stuck", I told my husband. He tried to assure me that I will never be stuck and basically I can achieve anything that I want. AC always tells me anything is possible. Those are the types of people you want to associate yourself with.
Even I have moments where I freak out because I'm afraid something won't work out. If you don't know my background, I used to be severely crippled by anxiety & depression. So much so that I would just lay in bed for hours and stare at the ceiling. It was hard to interact with people and it was even harder to live my life on a daily basis.
Back to last night...it was literally like nothing I did could bring my anxiety down. All I wanted to do was SLEEP. That's how anxiety works. It keeps you from so much that you want to do so badly.
There was a moment where I thought to myself...why don't you just breathe, Rachel?
I started breathing deep inhales and releasing them slowly. I wasn't trying to put myself in a meditative state, but I was using my breath to focus my raging brain. To wrap myself in an imaginary blanket of calm. This was all while being in my husbands arms, by the way. When you have anxiety, hugs and touch don't always work. Sometimes I can't stand touch when I'm like this.
Every time I exhaled, I dropped and released my shoulders towards the bed to create a mental simulation of dropping the struggle I was going through. I just kept focusing and kept breathing.
The next thing I knew, Nyla was waking me up a little before 7. I FELL ASLEEP!
My breath saved me. By mentally shifting my focus, I was able to break my cycle of anxiety. THAT hasn't happened to me in a looooooong time...So when it does, it scares me. By using my own strengths and techniques that I use with my clients, I am able to take back control of my life.
This is my reminder to you to just breathe.
If you are interested in guided meditation or breath work, please reach out! My clients are typically mind blown by the release of stress and anxiety. Breath can bring clarity to your mind like none other. If you KNOW that you want a guided meditation session with me, you can go here and I'll be reaching out soon!
Man. This happens EVERY December girl! You know when you reflect on the entire year and think about what you want to accomplish the next? Totally me right now! I'm still trying to figure out where the hell the summer went!
A major focus of mine right now? Shedding dead weight. Shedding dead weight that I no longer need to carry around with me. One of my POWER words for next year is "Free". I want to live free. I want to be free. What's your power word? If you don't have one, set it now and leave it in the comments!
For me, this involves letting go of any and everything I feel is holding me back from being my authentic self. Letting go of the things that I used to enjoy, but now cause me dread. Letting goof connections with other humans which no longer serve my intentions.
When you are talking about REALLY wanting to be free? You have to be courageous enough to let go of things even when its scary as SHIT. In the past few years, the scariest thing I have probably done is letting go of the nursing career I thought I would love for the rest of my life.
When you want to be FREE, you have to be willing to let go of some thing that have guided you all the way to where you are now. Intimidating. Terrifying. My whole LIFE and career felt like it was centered around nursing and I chose to let go so I could pursue my dream and passion of being a wellness and life coach. Even writing that and rereading it is so surreal.
I spent over 4 years in school for a field that I no longer practice in. But you know what matters now? I am happier. Not filled with anxiety and depression on the daily. My job doesn't make me physically ill.
I just want you to know that it's okay to free yourself. It is safe for you to be free and let go of anything that doesn't need to follow you into 2018. I know right now YOU are carrying something around and you're ready to lighten your load.
Just do it. Go for it. Your life is counting on you!
Another body loving blog, but this one is a personal account from yesterday that I want to share with you.
Frequently, I share about my struggle with loving my body after having a baby. A MAIN reason for this is because after you have a baby...you have so many people telling you to not worry about these things because--well, you just had a baby. We as women need to feel comfortable to talk about these things and not hold them in just because we are in a new space. All struggles are worth discussing.
In the previous blog, I talked about how it has been a difficult process learning how to love me with the "new" jiggle, stretch marks and what not. New is in quotes because my daughter is two, but it's still been a huge adjustment for me.
Yesterday, I was in the bathroom post workout. Naked of course because I was about to take a shower. What happened simply felt..magical. I looked at myself in the mirror and then did a double take. This moment felt like the very first time I fully accepted the reflection staring back at me. I thought I accepted myself before (like recently), but this was a different feeling.
In full view were my boobs that are less than perky nowadays...along with stretch marks on my side, thighs and bootay. Also in view was a radiance I felt coming from my skin. I literally saw myself glowing. Even though my skin wasn't perfect, I loved what I saw. With the rolls and loose skin. I didn't pick myself apart...at all. Mighty refreshing to not beat myself over the head! How did I learn to be perfectly okay with this body I was seeing despite the above?
I SO wish that I knew how to do this back when I had a newborn. I wish I knew how to love myself during the JOURNEY back to health. After I had Nyla, my blood pressure was high...again. Finding myself on blood pressure medication for the second time of my life was not a joyous moment. I dedicated all I could to getting OFF of it. Putting more pressure on myself for this reason had me hating my body even more.
In order to love your body (no matter what shape or size you are), you have to learn how to accept. You have to see yourself as a whole. You aren't separate or broken pieces, but it's easy to feel that way when you are picking yourself apart on a regular basis. You are a WHOLE human being. Life requires ALL of you to function--the mental and the physical. Understand that having a perfect body has ZERO to do with your capabilities as a woman. Zero to do with how GOOD you are.
You don't need a perfect body and you are whole as is. <3 Love you girl!
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So I've just been kind of going with the follow of whatever ideas and topics flow to my brain, but this one kind of knocked me in the
Often times I workout live on my social media channels without shirt on (OMG, I almost typed BRA. That would be incorrect). So I'm just in a sports bra and leggings, shorts or sweats.
I made a post about my loose mama skin- gifted to me from the experience of carrying my daughter from 2014-2015. Girl...it took me a LONG time to look in the mirror after I had Nyla. my skin was literally hanging over the side of my PANTS. I have lost a lot of weight and toned since then, but my body will never be the same.
Today, I grabbed my loose skin and tugged it gently to show my loose skin, but today it bothered me. Rachel-the self love and positivity chick. Yep- It bothered me! I thought I had come to terms with this shit, but apparently not.
I found myself thinking, " WTF!" because to be honest it can be frustrating for me. I started wondering if I didn't workout hard enough today. I got angry at last week because I was ALL the way off schedule with nutrition AND fitness (sick baby, sick me).
Then I got to thinking...maybe I need to revisit my OWN journey with body love in order to share more with you. Because I'm a life & wellness coach, I believe some people think that I am just this machine. I'm happy every day, things don't bother me, nothing can get to me, yada, yada.
You couldn't be further from the truth.
It has taken me a lot of time to get to THIS point. Nyla is 2 1/2. Over the past 2+ years I have worked on my body to lose weight and be fit again, but I don't think I have worked on the element of body love enough. You know how sometimes you're like, "I don't need to do that shit"?? Yeah, that's been me. I haven't dug DEEP enough into my personal story of body love. But I teach women how to do it all of the freaking time.
So it's not the point that I don't know how. I'm not sure if I have repressed this topic for myself, ignored it, focused too much on the wrong stuff...I really don't know. Once I started trying to find the missing links, I felt myself entering a panic zone. I focused on body love for myself, but not enough by any means. I am learning to love and accept myself more each and every day. Totally not something that can be completed in one sitting.
In a book I was reading, it said life is basically too short to spend time hating parts of yourself. Shannon Kaiser says, "loving yourself has nothing to do with how you look or your size. It is about how you live." MIND BLOWN.
The more I do the things that I LOVE the happier I will be. The happier I am, the more I will love life...and myself. The more I respect myself and do things to take care of my body? The better I will feel every single damn day.
So instead of treating yourself like a red headed step child on a regular basis, how about you show some love and gratitude toward your body today. NO, I'm not kidding. Write down a list of five things that you can do this week. Things that can make you happy and make you smile. No fake ass smiles. Legit ones.
I love you.
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Have you ever been on a REALLY good run with a new habit and then find yourself in that crash and burn situation? People often say they "fell off the wagon", but there are times where I feel like I have flipped OFF of my wagon going 90 MPH with ZERO chances for recovery.
Let's rewind to a couple weeks ago--I was rocking my cardio workouts, 30 days of yoga and healthy eating...
But then my wagon crashed and burned. Like...to a crisp. My daughter was sleeping like crap, I was struggling with headaches and fatigue. That turned into migraines and nausea. Throw in the ovarian pain from cysts and you have it made, girl! I felt AWFUL. I wasn't able to show up in my Facebook community and on Instagram stories as much as I usually do. People were legit LOOKING for me on social media! Listening to podcasts and reading my inspirational books? Didn't happen.
As last week progressed, I found myself eating crappier and spending WAY too much money on food when I could have been eating what was in our freezer. Yoga just needs a total redo because that ship has sailed and is long gone.
Yesterday was the first time I have gotten a full 30 minute workout in since Tuesday or Wednesday of last week (so jacked up, I can't even REMEMBER). Today made day two! I finally feel like I can work on myself again and started back on my daily self development.
I could totally let last week's hot mess trickle into this one...but I'm choosing not to.
Always remember you have a CHOICE. You have a choice to pick up and start again or you have a choice to make excuses. You have a choice to make MOVES or you have a choice to stay stuck in your current situation. When you think about it, choosing to do nothing also counts as a decision. Not really one I would recommend because most of us want some kind of change to occur within our lives, right?
Just because you have fallen off of your pretty red wagon at lightning speed doesn't mean that you can't start again. I know it's hard. It's scary. You feel like a failure. You think you can't do it. But I'm here to tell you that you can! Here are a few of my tips to get you on track for a BOMB week!
1. Write down 2-3 goals for the week. What do you want to accomplish? This can be something like, "I will go to yoga class this week" or, "I will write in my journal to clear my head".
2. Get specific. What days are you going to yoga? How many times? What type of class specifically? (Gentle flow, power) The more specific you are in setting your goals, the less stressful it will be for you.
3. Commit. Commit, commit, commit. I can't say this enough! Can't you tell? You can recommit to you at any time. In order to make CHANGES in our lives we have to realize that we have to say YES to ourselves. Commitment is not something we express only in relationships with others. It's so freaking necessary to respect yourself enough and offer up that SAME level of respect and trust to self. Write down, "I am committing to _____________ for this week because I deserve to take action in my life and work to create a better version of myself".
This week I wrote down ALL of my goals for the week in list format and I'll be keeping them RIGHT on my desk for a daily reminder! The more you see and write your goals, the more likely you are to do the work. <3
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We are constantly being bombarded with information targeted towards how we "should be". Would you agree with that? Social media is amazing. I mean how else would I be able to connect with you right now?!
But it's also a shit storm because there is a constant overload of text, pictures & video being tossed in your direction every time you open your Facebook or Instagram feed.
I have women tell me that they struggle hard with being authentic to themselves because every time they turn around there are bullshit society standards being thrown in their face. The acceptable size for a woman, what a beautiful woman looks like, comparisons of body shapes and sizes. The college degree you got? Means nothing. Oh, don't have a degree? You're worthless. Being a business owner is amazing! OMG you started a home business? Corporate America is where you should be using your skills! Get my point?
Sometimes when you see these "standards" and feel like you don't/can't measure up? You feel....well, you feel like shit. Let's keep it real. You feel like you aren't worthy or deserving because some ad told you that you don't measure up in your looks, education, business...whatever.
What if I told you that it isn't necessary for you to measure UP to anyone because you're creating competition that doesn't need to exist?
Humans are drama queens. Not that you particularly enjoy feeling shit ball, but we have THOUSANDS of thoughts that come across our mind every day. Some of those thoughts are what I call SNAP thoughts. We actually know they aren't true, but sometimes we attached to them, continue to dwell on them and it soon becomes our reality.
I need to tell you a few things.
1. You don't need anyone to tell you what your reality is. IF you grab a piece of paper and write it out, you can see it for yourself. Write down who you are. What do you do? What are you amazing at? How can you be better? Do YOU feel like you need to make changes? What areas of your life do you want to grow in? Be in charge of accepting where you are and choosing where you want to be.
2.You have to unfollow. Unfollow people and pages that give you these negative vibes. I am queen of the unfriend and unfollow button. Negative people on my timeline? Unfollow. Page sharing content that doesn't align with who I am? Unfollow. Let it be simple. Just hit the button and move on.
3. Understand that you are enough right now in this moment. On that piece of paper I told you to get out earlier? At the bottom, write, "I am enough right now. In this moment." Write it on every line of a blank page if you need to. Whatever it takes for you to understand that measuring up in order to be who/what you want doesn't matter.
The only competition you are in a marathon with is yourself, girlfriend. Trust and believe! <3
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I'm just going to get straight to the point. Are you taking care of yourself?
Don't BS yourself. Just be open and honest with the answer.
Many of you reading this will say, "DUH! Of course I am, Rachel! Why are you asking this stupid question?!" That's cool. I can take the heat and get real right back with you.
Now I want to ask you how OFTEN you are doing something for your own wellbeing? If the answer is, "just on the weekends" we have to have a talk.
I wanted to bring this topic to light because it seems like SO many of us try to ignore it. Or maybe we just operate in autopilot mode on such a regular basis, we don't even realize it. My reasoning for blogging about this is because one person I had a 1:1 coaching session with? Told me they couldn't even find time to clip their nails. I can't make this shit up. This person legit felt like their schedule was so bogged down there was ZERO time to give herself a manicure.
We talked about how sad it was (some laughs were had) and started working on some immediate self care tactics cause I was like, "whaaaaat girlfriend?!"
Another person told me they had no time to sit down. Literally something our body has the ability to do...they "never" have time for because they are running around doing 1,000 things for others instead of making time for SELF. Cleaning. Cooking. Visiting family. Spending time with friends. The works.
There once was a time where I was HORRIBLE at taking care of myself. Fitness junkie Rachel didn't exist yet. I wouldn't touch a gym with a 10 foot pole and taking care of my body wasn't even on my radar. Nursing school trumped everything and I felt guilty if I would take my face out of a book to go do something fun or watch a movie.
Being a mom? Holy shit. This bring self care to a WHOLE different level. It took me MONTHS to not feel bad for spending time to myself and leaving Nyla with my parents (or anything for that matter). I felt like the worst mother alive if I wasn't spending as much time with my little as I could at one point.
I may not know your story, but I know that it's hard to make time for yourself if it's not a habit you already have.
There are a few reasons off the top of my head why we don't make as much time for ourselves. Let's see if any of these jog your memory girl. IF you say no, I'm tempted to say that you are some sort of unicorn I have never heard of before. Keep it real with yourself. Right here, right now.
1. Work. You have to work to pay the bills right? If you don't go to work, no money comes in and then...well, we know what happens when you don't have income. For some, work rules all things. When a job is physically or mentally demanding, that can inhibit the priority of self care. Or maybe you have a family to take care of as soon as you pull into the driveway so you are low on the totem pole.
2. Kids. I once had a mom tell me that she couldn't have me as her wellness coach because she refuses to give time to herself and her kids deserve it ALL. She didn't feel like she needed to really make time for herself because parenting wasn't something she could really put onto the back burner.
3. Guilt. You feel guilty as HELL. If you make time for yourself that means you can't make time for all of the people around you. And then you feel like a self centered hag. Right?
4. Not knowing how. Being so immersed in that autopilot mode of thinking will have you really believing that you don't have a clue where to start. People ask ME what they can do for THEMSELVES. Because I'm not you, I can't give you that answer...but I can help you find it.
You are responsible for self care.
Not your friend. Not your husband. Definitely not me.
Self care is something that needs to be practiced daily. "If I could just get away and go on a vacation" you might say. Sorry, but you don't need a trip to Tahiti in order to be a better self caretaker. Vacations are nice, but they are only a temporary fix that we plan, budget for and experience. What happens when the vacay is over? You go RIGHT back to the life that wears you down each and every day.
Taking care of YOU is an every day habit. What is SOMETHING you can do for yourself today to show appreciate for who you are? To take care of your spirit and your body? To wind down?
Let me give you a list in case you're struggling...
1. Take a bath (extra points for epsom salt or a bath bomb)
2. Meditate for 5-10 minutes in the morning. My favorite app to use for guided meditation is called Calm.
3. Leave the laundry for later. Veg out, watch a movie, take a nap (if you're a fellow mama that one may be hard, but you never know!)
4. Put on some makeup. I've been noticing my confidence has been HIGHER since I started wearing lipstick. Not because I NEED it, but because it's become something that is fun for me. Leads to more smiles and selfies for sure.
5. Take yourself to breakfast, lunch or dinner to recharge. Solo dates are the BOMB!
6. Tell someone NO. Self care sometimes involves telling other people no so that you can do something for YOU. And don't feel guilty about it.
7.Dance around your house and act a fool. A plum fool as my grandma would call it. Pick your favorite song and jam out!
8.Stop multitasking. Focus on ONE thing. Don't tell me you can't because I don't believe in that word. It's super hard, especially if you are used to it. Focusing on one task at a time can leave us feeling more satisfied than working on several things and leaving so many loose ends.
9.Do one thing that makes you HAPPY! If you don't know what that is, start soul searching girl. What lights you up? What makes you smile?
10. You fill this in. What can YOU do to care for yourself? Not tomorrow. Today.